Sunday, March 13, 2011

What is a Self Care Diva???

What IS a SELF CARE DIVA?

A Self Care Diva is a Woman who IS Seeking to KNOW Herself- and her Internal Experience and Values- BETTER in every day in every way.

A Self Care Diva Honors her Feelings Thoughts and Experiences.

A Self Care Diva is striving to KNOW, Deep Within HerSELF, that what is Inside of Her is TRUE and GOOD and that SHE IS an ABSOLUTLEY INVALUABLE TREASURE. Period.

A Self Care Diva is a Woman who strives not to judge, condemn or shame herself in any way and creates a compassionate loving environment inside her mind for her thoughts, feelings and experiences to reside. She also practices non-judgment and loving acceptance of others experiences and feelings.

A Self Care Diva knows that Honoring Her Feelings and Experiences means Caring for Her Own Emotions through Sharing, Journaling, Art, Music, Dance, Exercise or other Healthy Peaceful Forms of Processing.

A Self Care Diva is on a Journey to Discover what truly matters to HER in Life and HOW she can express HER Internal Values and Beliefs in a way that is Satisfying to HER.

A Self Care Diva is a woman who wants to LET GO of how the world sees her, or how society sees her in favor of How SHE CHOOSES to see HerSELF.

A Self Care Diva knows that she is leading by example and that her children, her family, friends and community will ALL benefit from her practice of Trusting Her Insides FIRST. She knows that by setting this example of Self-Respect SHE is giving them permission to do so also.

A Self Care Diva knows that by asking for what she wants and needs from those in her life she is ALLOWING them a Direct Opportunity to be able to SUPPORT her and show her the RESPECT and LOVE SHE DESERVES. She also knows that by modeling this behavior she is giving them cues that she too will listen acknowledge, honor and respect their needs as best she is able.

A Self Care Diva is not afraid to ASK FOR HELP. She knows that when she asks others for their guidance and wisdom that she is allowing THEM the opportunity to feel of Value and Blessing their day.

A Self Care Diva is not afraid to change her mind or openly make mistakes. If she trusts her gut instinct (her inner wisdom) and uses respectful communication, she knows she does not need to explain what works for her or make excuses to others.

A Self Care Diva knows that being perfect is just a mirage for happiness and that true happiness lives in being fully present and alive in each moment, loving herself and loving her life.

A Self Care Diva knows that by taking ABSOLUTELY SUPERBLY SPECIAL CARE of HER Needs on a daily basis- needs like REST, BODY CARE, DOWNTIME, REFLECTIVE TIME, TIME in NATURE, EXERCISE, MEDITATION, WRITING, other forms of Emotional Release, CONSULTING SUPPORTIVE PROFESSIONALS, KIND FRIENDS, SPIRITUAL FRIENDS or FRIENDS THAT WILL JUST LISTEN AND LET HER VENT- that she is positioning herself to be MORE PRESENT for HER LIFE when it matters most and MORE AVAILABLE to the ONES SHE LOVES MOST.

A Self Care Diva KNOWS that Caring for Herself really IS CARING FOR THE WORLD.

I created this blog because I believe truly and deeply in this message. I want these changes for myself and for all women in our culture. As I look around, the whole world seems to mimic the "American Way". What a huge responsibility I feel as a Female Member of the one of the most powerful forces of change in the world. I want these big changes for every woman in America. May it echo out and reach women all over the world.

I also created this blog as a forum and as an opportunity for support. I do not consider myself an authority on anything. I simply have had many years of trial and error under my belt to know that this is the path I am on. I want YOU to REACH OUT!! COMMENT!! ASK!! AND RESPOND…SHARE!!! As a way of supporting these goals for one another and all of us. I am not the only Self Care Diva. You just might be a Self Care Diva too. Are you?

Please, share your stories, your victories with all of us. Because each time you do you will give another aspiring SELF CARE DIVA HOPE.


 

Monday, March 7, 2011

Self Care Diva

I am dedicating this blog to Awakened Empowered Women everywhere who are searching for someone or something out there to Give Them Permission to Take excellent, outstanding, exquisite, superb, sacred Care of Themselves and their lives- honoring their experiences and their values as people of value and worth on this planet.
Our culture dictates that women be the caregivers of others- and Hallelujah!! Women are so amazing and loving, so giving and tender. So many in this world need care and GOD BLESS every woman who reaches outside of herself to help or show kindness or love to another human being in any setting.
As woman, the dominant trait that is valued in this culture of ours is one of giving and servitude. I also think that people of sensitivity and compassion in general are simply drawn to give of themselves. This blog is not meant to degrade that service in any way. On the contrary I believe giving to be an absolute key element in living a life of happiness and fulfillment. Everyone should spend some hours of their day giving to anther human being or serving another in some way. Many of us- many women- are so good at giving to others and we find it so foreign an experience to give that same love and kindness, compassion, patience and care to ourselves.
The secret I am begining to unleash in my own life- that I know others out there are finding too- is that the more I am able to turn around those negative inner messages and thoughts that go on towards myself and replace them with the positive loving thoughts I KNOW to be true about myself.....the more I am able to reach in to myself as a person of value and worth- so desperate for care and acknowlegement and GIVE that care to myself- unequivically, unabashedly GIVE LOVE from a place in my heart to ME- the most amazing things are starting to happen. I am able to be so much more loving and available to others than I have ever been, but I don't loose myself the way I used to. I am able to give the unconditional love and support to others because I am beginning to have the experience of loving myself completely within and that is an experience I never would have known how to give another person before. I am feeling valued and worthy of having EVERYTHING I truly desire in my heart for my life- and my heart's desires have now become available to me, whereas before they felt locked away somewhere deep inside. I have been able to stand up for myself in situations that aren't right for me, change relationships that weren't working for me and stand up for my own respect and dignity in situations where there was disrespectful or unacceptable behavior of any kind.
I am not taking 100% full credit for all of this work. I have had a lot of support from my Higher Power everyday as well as my "support system"-That is the final part of the equation that we need to learn as women today- how to recieve the love and support we need when it does show up for us, how to ask for help and how to take in and recieve the love and support others have for us right now, today, in our lives.
This journey will span all topics of life pertaining to self-care, self-respect and self-love. I hope you'll join me. My wish is that we will find ourselves happier, more whole and so much more able to give to this world in a way that is satisfying and meanful to each of us.
Sat Nam